I am 29 and living with a man. This is the seventh man I have had relationships with. I don't have luck with single men. Every single man that has come my way, leaves me for another woman. A female friend and I went with my boyfriend to the beach and when he saw her in her bathing suit that was the end of my relationship. He kept staring at her and I called him and said, "hey man, I am here". He told me he was not doing anything wrong. I asked him why he was looking at my friend like that and he told me nothing. We took food to the beach and when it was time for us to eat and she sat down, my boyfriend wouldn't take his eyes off her. She has a nice figure but I am not bad-looking myself; however, she is younger.

When we went home, we had an argument over my friend. And just as what I thought, after two weeks he was going out with her and trying to deny it. I asked her if he took her out and she said yes, but her sister went with her so I don't need to fret. She said she doesn't want him, but one day I went into his pants pocket because I was going to wash and I saw a note from her asking him for $5,000. I didn't even bother to ask him about it. I went to her house and cursed her. She kept saying that she is not looking him, it is he who is looking her.

A.T.

Dear A.T.,

Your boyfriend doesn't have any self-control and he doesn't have any respect for you. I believe what you have said. From the day you took that girl to the beach and your man was there, you lost him. However, you are making a big mistake by fighting to get him back. If he had respect for you he would not embarrass you. And if this girl was really a friend of yours and she knew your man so well, she would not have tried to take him away. Your boyfriend is behaving as a silly man. I hope he did not give the girl the $5,000. I am sure you can spend that money to do something for the home.

Pastor