Dear Pastor,

I am a married woman and was sick for nine months. I wasn't able to have sex. I tried a couple times but couldn't manage so my husband gave up.

Sometimes he used to leave the house when I was asleep and asked my helper to give an eye on me.

During that time, I did not know my husband was having sex with one of my friends living a mile away.

Sometimes he would go to the woman's yard during the night. When I was getting better, could help myself and was able to stay up a little longer at nights, my husband changed his pattern and would leave 4 o'clock in the morning to walk. Instead of walking as a form of exercise, he would walk down to the woman's house and stay with her until 6 o'clock and come home.

People told me they used to see him going to the woman's house in the mornings.

I love my husband and he says he loves me. I asked him about the things I heard. He admitted, broke down and cried when I started to cry. He said he would broken off the friendship with the woman.

This woman and I were good friends. I told my husband she could never be my friend again but he told me she was not to be blamed because she was only helping him out because he and I couldn't have sex.

Why couldn't my husband go to another woman instead of my friend? Sometimes my husband used to do other things to satisfy himself and then sleep with me.

I know it was hard on him but now I don't know if I can forgive him for what he did. That is why I am writing you for advice.

A.E

Dear A.E.,

I suggest you both should go see a family counsellor. You are a good woman and love your husband. He loves you. What he did was wrong, but he has admitted that he was guilty of infidelity.

The woman regards what happened with your husband as helping you out. You see the woman as trying to destroy your relationship.

Forgive him if he has truly ended the relationship with the woman who calls herself your girlfriend.

Pastor