Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem and I hope you can give me some good advice. I have a boyfriend who is 22 years old and I am 18. When he met me I had a boyfriend but we were not getting along very well.

He was very jealous and was always accusing me of cheating on him, and Pastor, nothing was further from the truth. I have a good friend who is a male, and when my parents didn't have money to give to me to go to school, he always used to give me, but we never had sex because his girlfriend and I are cousins.

I would never have sex with her man. But he never asked me either. So this guy and I broke up because he believed that I was cheating.

Vaseline

My present boyfriend is younger, but Pastor, I don't know where he got this penis size. It is so large that when we first had sex he used Vaseline on the condom to get it inside of me. I cried during the whole time we were having sex.

When we finished, he told me I should buy lubricant, and I did. But this time I ended up in the doctor's office.

My boyfriend told me we should have sex often and I will become accustomed to it. But I can't manage him, so now he is holding back, and whenever I ask him for money he says that he has to give it to a woman who would give him sex because he has needs. I love him very much but I am afraid of having sex with him because it is very painful.

H.N

Dear H.N,

You should probably consult a gynaecologist. However, regardless of what the gynaecologist says, the decision to continue to have sex with him or to leave this man is solely yours. Evidently, this guy is very large. You can't change his size, nor can he change yours. It is unwise for anyone to use Vaseline in the vagina because it can cause infection. But talk to the doctor and hear what he or she has to say, and please write me again.

Pastor