Dear Dr Sexy,

I recently met a very nice lady and we seem to be hitting it off. As a matter of fact, the relationship is going so well that I think she will soon be ready to let me get to fourth base (although I am not trying to rush it). However, there is something that I have been wondering about. I have a small penis (by small, I mean smaller than average - one inch flaccid; 4.5 - 5 inches erect) and I am concerned that if and when the time comes for us to have sex, she might be disappointed when she realises how small it is.

Should I let her know before we have sex so she will not be too surprised or disappointed? Or should I just not say anything and wait until the act happens? I have heard arguments for both sides, but I'm still not sure which is the best or the preferred way.

I realize that the fact that you don't know much about what kind of person she is may make it more difficult for you to say what is best in her case. If that's so, maybe you could tell me what you would prefer. Would you want to know before or would you prefer not to be told and just wait until the time of the act?

Matthew, Manor Park

Dear Matthew,

I would not recommend that you tell her. You may be surprised to know that she may actually enjoy your package. If you tell her by starting a sentence with "I have a 1 inch penis", she will not hear anything else you tell her after that. Just continue to enjoy the connection you have with her. In the end, whatever you experience sexually will be added to the other great times she has had with you, and not just dependent on the sex alone. Believe me, that makes a big difference.

Dr Sexy

So you are out with friends and you look across the room and notice someone looking at you. Sparks fly and you brace yourself as this sexy specimen approaches you. Your heart is racing and your palms are sweating and you take a deep breath and try to keep your cool. OMG your admirer looks even better up close. You just caught a whiff of the fragrance and the smell is even better than the look.

You smile and hope you don't have anything in your teeth as the person says "Hello". You finally find your voice and respond. After about one hour of the most enjoyable conversation you have had in years, you exchange contact information and make a date with this person. You are excited; it feels really good to be desired. You have not gone on a date in a long time. What are some rules that you want to apply?

Everyone has their rules when it comes to dating. Some use these rules to help them control themselves so they don't move too fast. So what are some of those dating rules we should con-sider on the first date?

Be polite - this is a new experience with a new person, so smile and be pleasant. Whether or not this date turns into a long-term relationship, just enjoy this time together.

To kiss or not to kiss? This is a question you have to answer yourself. For most persons, it is dependent on how they feel about the person at the end of the date. If you decide not to kiss, be gracious and thank your date for their time.

Keep an open mind - remember, the purpose of the date is to get to know more about this new acquaintance, so treat the experience as such. Don't place any expectations on it, just allow the time to flow and see where it takes you.

Sex on the first date? This is also a personal decision. For a lot of persons, this is an absolute no-no. But if you choose to go ahead with it, know that whatever happens after is up to you. Lasting relationships have come out of these situations. Some have ended right there as well.

Do not talk about your ex - I know it's tempting to start comparing this new acquaintance with your ex. But mentioning your past failed relationships on a first date is a bad idea. Keep the conversation on light, positive topics.

Do not ask uncomfortable questions - I know you are trying to get to know this person, but asking questions that are intrusive and uncomfortable can really cause you to give the wrong impression. Questions about salary and even sexual interests should perhaps be asked when you know each other better.

Bring your get-vex money - it's the 21st century and, for some, the men are still expected to cover the cheque. However, that rule has definitely changed for many people. I always think it makes sense to have money on you, just in case.

Dating can be both daunting and fun, but don't forget the ultimate purpose - to get to know someone new. So on your next date, smile, be polite and attentive and most importantly: Have fun and stay sexy!

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Dear Dr Sexy,

I recently met a very nice lady and we seem to be hitting it off. As a matter of fact, the relationship is going so well that I think she will soon be ready to let me get to fourth base (although I am not trying to rush it). However, there is something that I have been wondering about. I have a small penis (by small, I mean smaller than average - 1 inch flaccid; 4.5 - 5 inches erect) and I am concerned that if and when the time comes for us to have sex, she might be disappointed when she realises how small it is.

Should I let her know before we have sex so she will not be too surprised or disappointed? Or should I just not say anything and wait until the act happens? I have heard arguments for both sides, but I'm still not sure which is the best or the preferred way.

I realize that the fact that you don't know much about what kind of person she is may make it more difficult for you say what is best in her case. If that's so, maybe you could tell what you would prefer. Would you want to know before or would you prefer not to be told and just wait until the time of the act?

Matthew, Manor Park

Dear Matthew,

I would not recommend that you tell her. You may be surprised to know that you actually enjoy your package. If you tell her by starting a sentence with "I have a 1 inch penis" She will not hear anything else you tell her after that. Just continue to enjoy the connection you have with her. In the end, whatever you experience sexually will be added to the other great times she has had with you and not just dependent on the sex alone. Believe me that make a big difference.

Dr Sexy