Greetings in the name of our soon coming king. I am 29 years old and I had to run from my husband. He accused me of having a relationship with my boss. For years he has been saying that stuff, and that was not true. I have a child for the brother of my boss. It was my child's father who asked him to employ me and, at that time, he had to make space for me in the company. Sometimes my boss gives me money to help to take care of his nephew, and my husband said he is only using the boy as a pass. He is looking me.

Pastor, when I started to work at the business place I wasn't qualified. And my boss allowed me to leave early to go to school. It was during that time I met my husband. And from the day I introduced my boss to him, he said he did not like him.

My husband is a higgler. He wants me to leave the work and travel in his pickup van to sell yam and banana. I told him no and he threatened to come to the workplace and scandalise the boss, and me, so I left the house and am staying with a friend. He has been calling and begging me to come back. I don't want to go back, so please give me your advice.

L.P

Dear L.P,

Your husband doesn't trust you. He believes that because this man is in a position to help you and to help to support his brother's child that you will fall for him and have a sexual relationship with him. As far as he is concerned, he doesn't have to prove anything. He believes that every man who gives a woman something needs something from her in return.

I hope that you will hold on to your job. You need it. He wants you to drive around with him and sell produce. There will be no guarantee that you will get x amount of money per week. And if his vehicle is not new, it's going to break down from time to time and then he will tell you that there is no money for you to get because he has to fix the van. Your husband is going to make you sweat in the hot sun and learn what it means to be broke. So I repeat, stay in your job.

You have left the home because of his nagging and accusations. Now he is begging you to return. I suggest that you ask him to go with you to see a family counsellor and get the assurance from him that all the nagging will cease. But let it be known to him that you would rather remain in your job where you will receive a stable income.

If your husband needs help with his business, suggest that he employs a young man who will be able to assist him in the lifting of the goods etc.

Pastor