Dear Pastor,

I don't know if you can help me out. I have been involved with my boyfriend for a year and a half now, but he has been abroad since last year December. He got married there, but he did not tell me about it. Eventually, I found out and confronted him, and he explained why he didn't tell me. He said that he didn't know how to tell me, and that I wouldn't understand.

Anyhow, I got over the married thing - somewhat. Lately, he has been telling me that he really loves me and can't wait to come home to me. Yes, I have strong feelings as well for him, but the fact that he got married and didn't tell me is still my concern.

We had sex two days before he left and spent the week together before he left.

He keeps checking on me. He calls his friends in Jamaica and asks them what I have been up to, and that kind of stuff. But I am wondering if he is playing me for a fool. We talk and text each other every day and I am trying my best to stay faithful until he returns next month.

What should I do? Should I stay or move on with my life? Your honest opinion is appreciated. Thanks in advance.

S.S

Dear S.S,

As the saying goes, "you knocked your head", and the blow has affected you, so you are not thinking right. How could you consider this notorious liar, this trickster, this disrespectful man, this deceiver, this con man to be your lover? Can't you see that this man sees you as a naïve and foolish young woman, someone who would believe whatever he says?

What makes you think that he would divorce his wife now and marry you? He planned what he was going to do and he did it, but he wants to hold on to you so that when he comes back to Jamaica, he can have his way with you.

Girl, wake up! The man is married, but he still wants to play with you. You talk about faithfulness. Yes, it's good for a woman to be faithful to her man, but this guy isn't your man.

I know that what I am saying to you, you might reject, but you will do so to your own peril. Tell this man to push his head in an ants' nest.

Pastor