Dear Pastor,

I have a problem. I have been reading your column for a long time and I respect your advice. I am divorced and am now in love with a man who is half my age. The problem is that this man and my son are very close friends. And that is how I met him. He comes to the house to my son and they hang out. He has a very sexy body because he works out.

One weekend, my son was out of town on government business, so I invited him over. I could see how shocked he was when he came through the door and saw that I was dressed in a white shorts and tube top bra. He kept staring at me. I offered him a drink while I was cooking and then we ate. I also told him that I was going out to see a show and whether he would be interested to go. He said yes. He left and I picked him up later in the evening and took him to the show. He offered to pay but I told him no; he was my date.

After the show, I told him that he could come back and watch movies with me, but he declined. The following day, which was Sunday, my son called to say that he wasn't coming back until Monday. It was a good opportunity to invite his friend back over and to tell him that I liked him. He told me that he liked me too but he was half my age. I kissed him and he kissed me back. And before the evening was over, we had sex.

I did not know how to tell my son that I like his friend. But to my surprise, he told me that he saw how close I was getting to his friend and I should remember that he is half my age.

Pastor, I am 50 years old and I am madly in love with this young man. I am in a good job and I own my own home. I don't know how to handle this problem. Do you think anything is wrong with this relationship? He and my son are almost the same age. My son is 26 years old.

B.S.

Dear B.S.,

Some people will say that you are a cougar and I doubt you would deny that. You are a hot, hot 50-year-old, perhaps too hot. You were out to get this young man and you succeeded. You are embarrassing your son by having an intimate relationship with his friend. That is why he reminded you that the guy is half your age. I would not be surprised if this guy takes up the challenge and play with you for a while. It would not be because he loves you, but because he can have sex with a big woman at any time and he wouldn't have to think about buying you anything. All he would want from you is sex. This relationship is an idiot thing.

Pastor