Ok, I know it's 2013, and there are so many new ways to communicate. Tablets, smart phones, webcams, smart TVs, honestly, the options are too vast to list right now. The great thing about technology is that it keeps the information flowing. It's fast, fun and with all the gadgets, keeping in touch is so much easier. I am a very big fan of technology, and I think it's a great way to add some spice to your sex life. Remember, you can take sexy pictures, use your webcams and even make your own movies. But there is a down side to being too caught up in using technology.

I can relate an actual incident that I personally observed. I was in a restaurant and noticed a couple that were sitting at a table close by. Both persons were so engrossed in their phones, they didn't say a word to each other. They only came up for air when the waiter came over to take their order or asked if they were enjoying the meal or to take them their cheque. For the entire evening, neither of them looked across at each other or shared even a sentence. This was very obvious to me because I actually watched them for the night. This led me to wonder how much we have allowed technology to come between us.

After observing this very sad couple, I made the decision to be more deliberate in creating technology-free moments in my day-to-day life. When I say technology-free, I mean, turn (tablets, laptops, phones, TV, radios, everything) off. I think this is a key approach in bringing couples closer together. So I am proposing that you try to take a technology holiday at least once per week. Here are some things that you can try:

Assign 10-15 minutes to talk daily - Just listen to what your partner has to say. It could be something about their day at work or something that is bothering him/her. It doesn't matter. Look in each other's eyes and just talk.

Go to the beach - We live in paradise, so go to the beach and enjoy each other. This is self explanatory, so just leave the devices in the car and go enjoy the beach.

Date night - Please don't repeat what that sad couple in the restaurant did. Turn off your devices, look across the table and talk to each other. You can even go to the movies. Devices are not allowed to be used in the theatre anyway.

Designate a techno-free zone - In the zone, no technology is allowed to be on or active. This can be the dinner table, definitely in the car, while you are in bed; you choose the area and stick to it. Make it a rule if you have to.

Soak in the tub together - You can't use technology in water anyway, so just enjoy each other in the tub.

With all of the wonderful options that technology has to offer, let's not allow it to get between us any longer. So turn off the devices and enjoy each other. Have fun and stay sexy.

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Question

Dear Dr Sexy,

I saw you article on female ejaculation (squirting) last week and I wanted to know if getting an orgasm (cum) is the same as squirting. When a woman has an orgasm, how does it compare to squirting? Does both orgasm and squirting come from the urethra?

Nicole, Portmore

Dear Nicole,

Having an orgasm is the same as squirting but not all orgasms cause ejaculation. Squirting usually happens from g-spot stimulation. Orgasms can occur through clitoral, g-spot stimulation, vaginal penetration or any combination of these three. Women have also had orgasms from anal stimulation as well. Not all secretions come from the urethra when a woman has an orgasm. The vaginal walls also secrete a fluid as a result of orgasm. Hope this information will help you to enjoy your orgasms in the future.

Good luck and stay sexy,

Dr Sexy