Dear Pastor,

I am in a very complicated relationship. I am 20 years old and the reason why I can't get out of it is that I love this person, but not with all of my heart. August has passed and we haven't talked until the beginning of September. He called me and we talked and I thought everything was going well, but after three weeks I hardly hear from him.

He would do things for me and sometimes I think that it is because of his job why he is busy, but at least he can say so. I really want to get over this person, but I keep going back to him every time he shows up. I wasn't this type of person until he came into my life. He is everything I want in a guy, but he is lacking when it comes on to giving me attention these days.

I want to stay focused because I have dreams, but my mind is on him. Please help me.

Yan

Dear Yan,

This guy is not ready for a serious relationship. Perhaps he likes you, but he is taking his time in getting to know you. So please do not rush him, otherwise you will lose him totally.

Pastor