Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am writing to you and I really need your help. I have a boyfriend who is 27 years old. He is very fat and his penis is very short. And because of that he is not making me feel as good as my former boyfriend. My ex-boyfriend is slim and tall, but he has a babymother, so he can't give me much money. And I need money to go to school because I have to travel every day to Kingston and to buy lunch. Sometimes I have sex in my ex-boyfriend's car because I can't go to his house.

My boyfriend gives me money, but I don't like my friends to see us together because he is very fat. He works for himself and every Friday he gives me $5,000. Sometimes, I lie and hide to go to his house. Whenever I go there, he cooks and he eats a lot of food. He is a nice guy, but I don't love him. But he thinks that I do.

My father doesn't care anything about me. And some of the money I get from my boyfriend, I always give to my mother. She has two young children. They are twins. Please tell me what to do.

F.B.

Dear F.B.,

Only one thing is keeping your fat boyfriend and yourself together and that is the money he gives to you. You say he has a small penis, but that does not mean that he cannot get you pregnant. I know you are poor, but you would have to understand that you are playing a dangerous game. You say you do not love him, therefore you should not give him the impression that you do.

Men do not like women to pretend that they love them, when the truth is the women only want their money. That may cause a man to physically hurt a woman. Let me hasten to say that a man should not hit a woman, but neither should a woman pretend that she loves him when that is far from the truth.

I want you to know that I understand your dilemma. You want to go to school and this man can help you, but at the same time you don't love him. It is better to tell this man the truth. Perhaps he will be willing to help you, but he will not consider you his future wife.

You are using this fat man for money. And your ex-boyfriend is just using you for sex. He cannot help you and you know that very well, but you are with him because you believe that he can satisfy you sexually. I cannot encourage this relationship.

Pastor