Dear Pastor,

You and your staff are doing a wonderful job. Continue the good work that you are doing. My new boyfriend and I have had a wonderful conversation. I think everything will be okay. We are planning to live together anytime soon. We are putting material together for our house, etc. I used to work so I have a little savings. This man has been teaching me a lot.

He has four children and he is a great father to them. I always ask him how his children are doing, etc. I will love them as if they are my own. We talked about having children of our own very soon, but I am still going to college. I am thinking of working, and then attending college part-time.

I am having one problem. My boyfriend used to live with his girlfriend and their children but they broke up over a year now. He only has two out of the four children with her. He doesn't live there anymore. He just goes there to look for his children's or wash. He hasn't told his children's mother that he has moved on with his life. He told me he would tell her soon.

I am not worried about that because he is very straightforward and he will tell the truth. That is what I like about him. She only calls him if the children want something or if they want to talk to him. He told me about her and she seems to be very nice.

Pastor, this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. I am through searching. He said I am the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with. I love this man dearly.

I await your response.

M.K.

Dear M.K.,

I believe that you mean well. I really do. But you are very naïve. You are entering into a lion's den. The only reason why you are not mauled by the lion is because the door to the cage is not yet closed. You can still escape. You didn't give your age, but I am assuming that you are still very young, perhaps in your late teens or early twenties.

This man has four children and he tells you that he goes to the house of two of the children to wash their clothes. He is still having a relationship with that woman and he has not told her about you as yet. Why should he go to the house to wash their clothes?

Then think about it, this man is encouraging you to use your money to assist in setting up house to live with him. Girl, you are making a big mistake. You are planning to go to college, you should be saving your money to pay your tuition, etc, not to go to live with a man.

I have to tell you that you are going in the wrong direction. And if you insist that you must have a relationship with this man, you are going to regret doing so in the months or years to come.

Pastor