Dear Pastor,

I am a woman. What I do with my husband when things are not right between us is to give him the silent treatment. I sleep in my daughter's room, or if he wants sex, he would take it. I would just lie there as if I am dead. And as a result of lying there as if I am dead, his penis becomes dead.

Take good care of yourself, pastor.

Wife

Dear Wife,

Wouldn't it be better if you were to try to talk to your husband about the immediate problem that you might be experiencing and the tension that it has caused between the both of you? Why the silent treatment? And why make a fool of your husband by not responding to him while he is trying to make love to you? You wouldn't really want your husband's penis to go dead forever, would you? What if your husband should punish you and not have sex with you when you really feel for his loving? You wouldn't want that, would you? What you wouldn't want for yourself, don't do it to your husband.

By the way, when your husband and you have a disagreement, please do not move out from the matrimonial bedroom. Your daughter shouldn't be aware that you are upset with your husband.

Pastor