Dear Pastor,

How are you doing? I hope you are ok and in the best of health. I have a problem and I am seeking your advice. I am 22 and I am talking to this guy who is 27. I am in love with this guy but he has a girlfriend who he said has her man living abroad. He said that she won't leave her man abroad for him. They are not married but I don't know if this guy is serious about me.

He told me that he grew up seeing his parents being married and that is the life he wants to live. When he is home with the girl he doesn't text or call me. I don't hear from him for days.

Sometimes when I text him and he doesn't reply, I would tell him that I am pregnant for him just to see his reaction. He would respond by telling me that it is ok and he loves me enough to leave the other girl because he deserves more than her. He even told me that we can look a place and live together as a family with his unborn child, but I was only joking.

He was a bit disappointed with me not being pregnant, even though it wouldn't have been his first child. He told me that he loves me on many occasions but I don't know if it is true because nothing sometimes matter to him.

My problem is that I really love this guy. I know I can go on my knees and pray and ask God to show me signs if this man is for me or not, but I also ask for you to pray for me as well, pastor. I really would like to get married and go into my church with this guy. I love him so much. All I do at times is listen love songs but I am insecure with him. Do you think this man loves me, pastor? Can you give me your advice, please?

Insecure

Dear Insecure,

You are wasting your time with this young man. I cannot pray that God will bring both of you closer together. I see him as a liar. If he really wanted to leave this woman for you, he would have done so long ago. You are wasting your time. Start dating other guys. And let him know that you are doing so.

Pastor