Dear Pastor,

I am 23 and married for seven months. My husband is such a darling. Both of us were sexually active before we met, fell in love and got married.

My husband has such control when we are in bed. He will tease me for hours without giving me his stick (penis). Sometimes I want him so bad, but all he wants to do is play around. He kisses me all over. when I am ready, he is not ready. There is no place on my body that my husband does not lick and kiss.

One night I tried to rape him, but he turned on his belly. I couldn't turn him over, he is too big and strong. He wanted me to wait.

Do you think my husband is punishing me? I want to get pregnant, but he is not interested. I want to have two children before I am 30.

F.U.

Dear F.U.,

It seems, to me, your husband has learnt the art of lovemaking. He is not in the slam-bam approach. He takes time to enjoy you, and will love for you to enjoy him too, but you don't have patience. He is a teaser. Perhaps you need to learn how to stimulate him.

Enjoy the good times with your husband. When you have children, things might change. Have fun now, clean fun.

Pastor