Dear Pastor,

I listen to your programme every night. I am having a problem with my fiancé. He is very ignorant. Whenever we are making love, he doesn't kiss or hug me. He used to do that but he has stopped. I believe he is cheating. I don't know what to do. Can you tell me what to do? I am fed up.

Dear C.J.,

This man might be sending you a message. He could be telling you he has other interests and his heart is not with you a hundred per cent. When a man and a woman are going together and say they are in love, they hope the love will grow deeper every day. When they stop doing certain things, the message is clear - something has gone wrong in the relationship. Therefore, they should seek professional help.

It could be that this man wants to get out of the relationship and he is buying his time. Perhaps he is bored to death in the relationship.

A man doesn't suddenly become rough in love making when, in the past, he was tender and took time for foreplay, etc. If he has become rough and brutish, it is because he wants to just get over with it. Perhaps you need to ask whether he is willing to go with you for professional help. If he is not interested, you should start packing your bag.

Pastor