Dear Pastor,

I hope this letter finds you in good health. I must commend you on the amazing work you effortlessly do. It is quite enlightening. I always read your column, but this is my first time writing to you.

Pastor, I am a 16-year-old teenage girl and attend a prominent high school in the Corporate Area. I have found myself in a state of shame and confusion as a result of a spontaneous occurrence with a 27-year-old man. To cut a long story short, I met this man and, in the short space of hours, he showed me love, affection, care and attention, which I have never felt before. We kissed, not once, but many times on the same occasion.

I am still a virgin, which is very hard to find in this generation. I have only had three boyfriends in my lifetime. I have never done any sexual act and it was my first time kissing. I also get good grades, so I feel like I deserve a little loving.

However, part of me feels this man is too old. I have not communicated with him since and it hurts me. Why I have not communicated with him is not by choice. I accidentally lost his number and he didn't have mine. If I make up my mind, I know I can get it back.

Pastor, I want to know if I should forget about this man or should I contact him. I anxiously await your answer. Thanks in advance.

What should I do?

G.

Dear G.,

If you continue to kiss passionately, it might not be long before you lose your virginity. A male may kiss you so passionately that you could be turned on and you will not be conscious that you are a virgin until you lose it.

I am talking about French kissing. That can turn a girl on. If you want to remain a virgin, you should not allow any man to toy with your body. It is a step to sexual intercourse.

Concerning this 27-year-old man, who kissed you over and over on that occasion, you were fortunate that was only what he did. Perhaps it was good that you lost his number. Don't bother to search for or him. You are playing with fire.

You have a long way to go in school. Any boyfriend you have now should be considered social. You said you have already had three boyfriends. Don't seek intimacy now with any man. Give yourself time to grow up and mature. If you do, you will make better choices in everything you do.

Pastor