Dear Pastor,

I am a 23-year-old woman living with my boyfriend for two years. Every night he wants me to have sex with him and I do not love to have sex. Sometimes I feel that I should stop living and talking to him, and start doing girls.

T.

Dear T.,

It seems to me the only reason why you are with this man is because he is providing food and shelter for you. From the tone of your letter, you seem to have the desire to go with women. You said you do not love to have sex, but if your desire is to "do women", what you are saying is that you would have sex with women. So it is much more than just loving sex. You do not wish to be penetrated by a man.

I suggest you tell your boyfriend the truth and both of you go your separate ways. He might try to force you to stay, but you know your heart is not with him. I cannot encourage you to have sex with women ,because you are a woman.

What I can encourage you to do is to seek the help of a psychologist because, by getting professional help, it might help you to assess your situation and also help to determine whether or not you are an homosexual in the true sense of the word.

You are a very unhappy woman and I hope what I have said will help you. Please, let me hear from you again.

Pastor