Dear Pastor,

I am 19 and I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend. I cannot get over him. I have a new boyfriend now, but I am always talking about my ex. Whenever I am having sex with my new boyfriend, I call out my ex-boyfriend's name. I am asking you please to tell me what to do. I really need your help.

A.L.

Dear A.L.,

Perhaps you need to tell your present boyfriend that you are trying hard to put your ex-boyfriend behind you, so to speak, but you are still in love with him, so he should try to understand and be patient with you. It may take a very long time for you to get over your ex-boyfriend, especially if he was very good and kind to you.

I am not encouraging you to have sex, but if you believe that you must have sex, you should learn to keep your mouth shut when you are having sex. Otherwise, your present boyfriend might believe that you are still having sex with your ex.

Pastor