What are some of the things that come to mind when someone asks you what your fantasy is? Of course, the imagination can come with many inventive and spectacular sexy combinations, but how many of us actually indulge our fantasies? If we were to take a look at the popular fantasies, we will see some similarities. Here are the most popular fantasies:

1. Threesome (two females one male) - Otherwise known as every man's fantasy, the threesome is possibly the most popular male fantasy of them all. Men dream of being able to please two women at the same time as a testament to virility and prowess.

2. To dominate - We have seen the movies where the dominatrix in her leather outfit shows her slave who is boss. It's exciting to be the one who sets the pace and decides the flow and outcome of you and your partner's pleasure.

3. To be dominated - Both men and women share this fantasy as the thought of giving up total control to someone and have them be in charge of your pleasure is very exciting. It also requires trust, so make sure you and your partner are on the same page.

4. The Mile High Club - Whenever most persons go on a plane, they are just anxious to get to their destination. The rest of us try to find interesting, fun ways to pass the time in flight. Squeeze into the tiny bathroom and get your sexy on! Talk about flying high.

5. Quickie in the restaurant bathroom - I know you have thought about it. The restroom in the fancy restaurant is very nice. Wonder what it would be like to just take your honey in there and test the weight limit on the pretty counter top?

6. Voyeurism - Watching a video of someone getting intimate is one thing, actually being in the room as it happens is definitely a fantasy shared by many - both men and women.

7. Forced sex fantasy - There are a number of women who fantasise about being taken by force sexually. In this secret 'rape' fantasy, the "victim" is bound, kidnapped and forced to have sex with her 'captor'. This is exciting because she is completely out of control and the roughness of the experience adds to the intensity.

8. To be a prostitute for the night - Yes I know this might sound stranger because of how persons see prostitution. But the thought of playing the role of a wanton sex worker has its perks. Plus if you are really good, you might even earn a tip.

9. Sex at the office - I am sure anyone who has ever had their own office has thought about having sex on the desk. well, maybe it's just me. However, this is a fantasy that many have shared and even realized. Just make sure you don't get caught with your pants down, pun intended.

10. Threesome (two men one woman) - This is the fantasy of quite a few women who wants to experience being the focus of two men at once. The men are usually not very willing to participate in this, simple because they have a hard time sharing. Some will not be comfortable with another man being present.

Whether you decide to make your fantasies a reality, they can be a healthy and fun part of your relationship. So, at the very least, sit with your partner and compare fantasies. You just might learn you both want to do something naughty and fun in the boardroom at your office with some chocolate syrup. Just be open and remember some fantasies will always be just that - a fantasy.

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Question

Dear Dr Sexy,

My boyfriend and I have just introduced oral sex to our relationship and, as much as I appreciate his effort it's not as fulfilling for me as I make it for him. How do I tell him what he is doing wrong and what to do right, without hurting his feelings so he will want to do it again?

Shelly, Santa Cruz

Dear Shelly,

Let him know you appreciate his effort, and help him please you. It is very important that you give him feedback. Don't focus on what he is doing wrong, tell him what you want him to do. Don't be insulting, be supportive. Remember the experience is also new to him. Even if you have to hold his ears and point him in the direction you want him to go, you must communicate your desire to him. Be kind, men are very vulnerable about their sexual prowess.

Stay sexy,