Dear Pastor,

I am hoping God will continue to guide, bless and keep you while you do your job to the best of your ability. I am having a problem and hope you can help me and give me some advice as to what to do.

I am 19 and with mature for my age. I tend to go for females who are much older because talking to females my age I figure they don't know how to appreciate real love and know how to deal with a serious relationship. I have been hurt too much by them.

I have been in two previous relationships and, on separate occasions, had to lie to the females about my age and date of birth because when I really got to find out their ages, and what age group males they want, I am nowhere in their class.

I told one I was 23 and the other that I was 25, but what I realised is that I cannot exceed two months in a relationship without wanting to tell them my real age. If I tell them when I meet them, I will not be accepted because it has happened already. I had to withdraw from those two relationships by telling them that I found someone else. One of them even caused a fight, but come, nevertheless, it is over.

I am single, but met this female last week and she is 23. I told her I was 23, too, without even realising that I did it.

It was afterwards when I was going back through the text that I sent her, I realised what I have done. She is a good female. She is sweet and sexy and knows how to treat a man right. She cooks for me and I love her cooking. She is in need of a good man. I am very romantic and think we would settle down and do well if I were 23. I don't know how to bring it to her attention.

Your advice is immediately needed because I don't want things to reach too far and break her heart.

C.D.

Dear C.D.,

You are behaving as a kid. You said you are mature, but your actions prove the contrary. If you were mature, you wouldn't lie about your age. You are 19 and have been dating older women. Why not tell them the truth about your age? Some women would not reject you because you are 19. Some guys your age behave as if they are in their 20s. You are behaving as an adolescent. You shouldn't be living with a woman. You need to take time and grow up.

Pastor