Dear Pastor,

I trust that you are in good health. I am 25 and have two children with a woman my mother never liked. My mother is now dead, but before she died she told me that I should not marry this woman. I am the only child for my mother. After my mother died, my children's mother came to live with me in the house. And the first night she was here I dreamt that my mother came into the house and was very displeased because we were sleeping in her room.

The children were in my room, so when we woke up I did not tell my children's mother what I dreamt. We changed around the things in the room and we put the children to sleep in my mother's room and we took over the other room although it is smaller.

I keep dreaming my mother. And whenever I see her in my dreams, she is always upset. And that was not the way she used to be in real life. Pastor, I know it is because my girlfriend is living in our house. I can't see myself leaving her because she has not done me anything. She takes care of the children. I am planning to move out of the house and rent it.

Do you think that this is a good idea? And do you believe that my mother would stop appearing in my dream? I want to go to church so I would like to get married.

R.O.

Dear R.O.,

Your mother is dead and buried. You have your life to live. You have had a relationship with your children's mother for a long time. You should marry her. It is not your mother who is haunting you, it is what she told you before she died. But you have to do what is right.

The Bible says that when a person is dead he/she does not have any power. You won't be doing anything wrong by marrying your children's mother. If you do not wish to continue to live in the house, and you can rent it and live somewhere else, that is up to you. But hurry up and marry your children's mother. And every Saturday/Sunday, let the whole family go to church.

Pastor