Talking on the mike, cleaning sword, swiping, whatever you call it, fellatio (oral stimulation of the penis) is something that still stirs up a lot of emotional responses and controversy. Fellatio usually motivates a very passionate response, either some love it or really hate it.

It's 2013, and though oral sex on a whole is still a touchy subject for many, quite a few persons have expressed their enjoyment of this practice. The discussion is different based on whether we are talking about cunnilingus (oral stimulation of the vagina) or fellatio (oral stimulation of the penis). Jamaican men have been very adamant that they don't bow (perform cunnilingus) but they have been equally expressive on how much they enjoy fellatio. Hypocrisy? Absolutely!

Dancehall music is the easiest target, as most Jamaicans' first exposure to sexuality is through dancehall. When Shabba Ranks was the reigning King of Dancehall, bowing of any kind was not allowed, condoned, or even spoken about, except to say, don't do it.

Fast-forward to 2013, it's literally a different tune completely. The usual suspects, Cham, Konshens and even 'The Teacha', among others, have all expressed in their lyrics how much they enjoy oral attention. In one of his very popular songs, Freaky Gyal Kartel actually called out the "bad man" to admit how much they too enjoyed oral stimulation. At this juncture, I need to highlight that the same deejays who love to receive oral stimulation will not - never, no never - give the same pleasure to their women. Or so they say.

Unlike their male counterparts, when it comes to oral escapades, women are more open to speaking about fellatio and they even openly admit to not only doing it, they enjoy giving their man that pleasure. Many women claim to enjoy the power that they feel when they have their man quivering from the pleasure they give orally. This is a high, some say. So, how many of you men would like your partners to perform fellatio on them? What about the men who say that their personal woman cannot do those things?

So there is a way to do fellatio for maximum pleasure, and these are some tips:

START OFF CLEAN

TEASE

ENJOY THE POWER

THE WETTER, THE BETTER

USE YOUR HANDS

Any sexual contact with someone who has an STI including HIV will expose you to contracting these infections. So please take the necessary steps to avoid such contact. Know your status and that of your partners. Oral stimulation is very intimate and can serve to bring you close to each other. Just make sure that you enjoy giving pleasure and don't be afraid to add some fruits and desserts to the activity.

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Question

Dear Shelly,

My partner and I have been together for five years. We both perform oral sex on each other and find it very satisfying. He's a pro in my book and he does things that makes me squirt and I am great with that, but I've never performed oral sex on him until he ejaculates. I do it to him but just to a mention, I know he wants to experience me do that for him because I've heard him say so. Trouble is, though he is my first, so I haven't had much experience in the oral sex area. I love him and love the way he satisfies me and would love to do the same for him. I'm just not so crazy about the taste of it. Plus, is it okay to swallow?

Lisa, Montego Bay

Dear Lisa,

I know many guys watch porn and relish the idea of their woman swallowing after oral sex. The decision to swallow is 100 per cent yours. Health-wise, semen is actually very good for you, provided your partner is free of any infections. Semen is full of protein, minerals (zinc and calcium), some fructose sugars and other nutrients with few calories, so there is no reason to be concerned about increasing your weight. As for flavour, it can be affected by the man's diet. So if you want it to have a fruity flavour, just make sure he eats a lot of fruits and ensure he is well hydrated throughout the day.

Stay sexy,

Shelly