Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem and I would love for you to help me. I am 28 and the mother of a four-year-old boy.

I think I might be in love with a guy I met almost nine years ago. We became friends while we were attending the Heart Trust Academy. We spent a lot of time together while we were there. Both of us lived on campus. I started my training there before him, so I left him there but we still remained friends.

When I came home, I met someone else, found a job and decided to move in together. A couple years after, I got pregnant and we have a son. I was still corresponding, with the guy from training school.

A few weeks ago he came to see me because we hadn't seen each other in almost nine years. Seeing him stirred up a whole lot of feelings. I know he loves me but I know there wouldn't be a future there for us.

Every day since he came to see me, we have been communicating, even more than before.

He wants me to come to his house in Manchester. I think if I do we might end up having sex.

I would not want to hurt my child's father because I love him very much.

Please give me your advice.

M.T.

Dear M.T.,

Temptation can be very strong. You know what went on between this guy and yourself in school. You got involved with another man. The other man is not ill-treating you. You are happy with him and have a child together.

Don't be silly. Stick with your child's father. Stop the young man from calling you so often. Don't stir up the flesh. It would get you into trouble. I repeat, stay with your child's father.

Pastor