Dear Pastor,

I am having a long-distance relationship with a man. He lives in Jamaica and I am in Florida. He told me he is not seeing anybody and I told him the same.

Recently I have started to go out. I have a girlfriend and she introduced me to her cousin. This guy is really cool. He has not pressured me for sex, but whenever he romances me I have an orgasm.

I really like him. We haven't gone all the way because we are Christians and I always think of my boyfriend in Jamaica.

I have two more years in college and plan to return to Jamaica and get married to my boyfriend.

My girlfriend told me that whatever I do should be my business because I don't know what my boyfriend is doing in Jamaica. This guy is so honest to me and I like the way he operates. I feel very comfortable with him.

Do you think I should tell my boyfriend in Jamaica I am dating this guy?

E.E.

Dear E.E.,

Whatever you and this young man in America is doing, must be heavy petting to cause you to experience orgasm without sexual intercourse.

If you all don't stop the nonsense, it is just a matter of time before both of you go all the way.

You don't drive a car as close as possible to a cliff to prove that you are a skilled driver, you keep away from the edge of the cliff.

Do not stay in America and try to fool the guy in Jamaica, tell him you are dating another guy but you still love him.

Pastor