Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column and I have been reading it for a long time. I have been a married woman for 11 years. My husband works at a security company and he is getting a good salary. He doesn't take me out, not even to buy clothes for myself. I am working at a certain institution. He has a child with another woman, but when I asked him about the child, he denied that he is the father. He has been going with the child's mother for six years.

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My husband gives me $12,000 to go to the market every month. He doesn't even want sex from me. When he gets paid, he is always immediately broke.

Please give me your advice. I am stressed out.

J.D.

Dear J.D.,

You do need more money per month to go to the supermarket, but you are working so you should use some of what you earn to support the house. If you are paying the rent and you are taking care of other expenses, that is a different matter. In any case, what needs to be done is that both of you need to make a budget together and share all the expenses.

Concerning the child, if your husband is indeed the father of this child, he should tell you the truth and continue to support his child. But he should not continue to be intimate with the mother.

Pastor