Dear Pastor,

I am a 23-year-old girl who has been seeing a man since 2007. We had some problems in our relationship. It was my fault because I was young and stupid. We broke up three years after we began seeing each other, but we got back together in 2010.

I really love this guy and I know he loves me also. In 2008, I got pregnant for him but lost the child in my fifth month of the pregnancy. He was always there for me.

God's will

Pastor, he wants to marry me as much as I want to marry him and we are trying so hard to have a child, but I have a huge doubt in my mind that I can get pregnant again. I pray to the Lord night and day. I am not complaining or questioning God's work, but I am just thanking Him for all He has done and will do.

Pastor, if you know any good gynaecologists who you can recommend me to, I would really appreciate it. Thanks for your advice in advance and keep doing the good job you are doing.

Faithful

Dear Faithful,

I do not get the impression that you have had a college education or that you have even acquired a skill that you can use to support yourself. What you are concerned about is getting pregnant. That should not be occupying your mind at your age. A child is not a toy and is very expensive to maintain.

The young man with whom you are having the relationship does not seem to respect you very much. If you have to become pregnant before he marries you, he is not worth having as your man. He wants you to prove that you are a woman by getting pregnant again. And that is not something that is totally in your hand. So, please wake up. You are thinking too highly of this man. Use your time and get yourself an education.

Pastor