Dear Pastor,

You have been doing a superb job that should be commended. I am in love with a guy who is overly jealous. He cares and shows that he loves me, but I just can't deal with him being so jealous. He doesn't trust me one bit. Every man that comes my path, he feels I am with them or planning to be with them. Regardless of how I try to convince him that I am not involved, and will not cheat, it makes no sense because his mindset says otherwise.

I feel he will kill me

Pastor, sometimes I feel this man will kill me one day because of how jealous he is. I figure, if he could, he would stop me from working because he fears I will have relationships with my co-workers. I am very friendly and this man is very jealous.

Please advise me as to how I can deal with this man.

M.R.

Dear M.R.,

You know this man does not trust you. I must say anyone who is overly jealous can, indeed, commit murder. It has happened many times in the past and will continue to happen. No one should stay in a relationship with a partner who is jealous.

A jealous person has a psychological problem. No amount of arguments between his spouse and himself will solve the problem. Your boyfriend does not trust you because he is afraid you will cheat on him. You should not trust him either because you ought to be afraid of what he might do.

To be totally frank with you, I suggest you leave this man. After you have left him, don't look back.

Pastor