Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I am 23 years old and I am living with my boyfriend. My boyfriend is a security guard and he rents a small apartment for the both of us to live. One of his cousins came from the country to look for a job and didn't have anywhere to stay, so he asked my boyfriend if he could spend a week with us.

The week turned into one month and he was still here. I didn't have any privacy because the place is very small. And whenever I talked. My boyfriend told me to give him a little more time. But Pastor, he was getting very fresh because one night when my boyfriend left for work, he told me that he loved me and he suggested that we could have sex because my boyfriend wouldn't come home until morning. I was so surprised. I cursed him and told him that I will tell my boyfriend that he approached me for sex. I was so angry that I put a knife under my pillow and put on a jeans shorts and said to myself if he touched me I would surely kill him.

When my boyfriend came home, I told him that I was going to stay with a friend until his cousin leave, but I did not tell him why. When my boyfriend saw that I was serious about leaving, he called him and told him that he had to leave because his time was up. Now, his cousin called me and told me that he is going to tell my boyfriend that we had sex when nothing like that happened.

C.M.

Dear C.M.,

Your boyfriend tried to help his cousin and his cousin tried to go to bed with you. He is a dirty fellow. I am sure your boyfriend knew that the place was not convenient, but he was trying to be helpful. His cousin acted as a fool, so your boyfriend was very correct in asking him to leave. If you had told your boyfriend what happened, he might have believed you or doubted you. So it was a risk that you did not want to take. If this man carries out his threat, you might have to tell your boyfriend exactly what happened. And whether he believes what you say or not, you know that you have spoken the truth. So relax and don't allow the threat of this young man to upset you.

Pastor