"This column is a no-judgement zone where mi jus talk mi mind and give mi advice!"

"Mi jus love when my man rough mi up"

"My man only beat me because him love mi"

"Why him always ignoring me? ... I think I'm in love"

"Yes, mi kno him bad ... but ... mi can change him"

These are the words of many women!

Why are women attracted to bad boys?! Some women are going to disagree with the statement above but I have no apologies about my statement and this is why: At some point in every woman's life she will or have found herself attracted to the villain character in a movie, a boy/man who plays hard to get, the guy who seems mysterious with a dark past or the street-smart thug with the pretty boy face.

Let's face it! There's just something irreverently sexy about a 'Bad-Boy'. They tend to be charismatic, confident, very self aware, an unapologetic rule breaker, overall, he's a man with an edge! But with all this said! These are usually men who we know for a fact aren't good for us in the long run!

Why do we still love them?

What is about the men that seem unavailable or mysterious? Why are women drawn to men they can't understand, tame or predict? I've figured it out!

Based on my personal experiences and those I've observed there are several reasons a woman attempts to include a bad boy in her life, hence the Bad Boy - Effect!

These reasons include the following:

Some women are dare devils and are truly attracted to the forbidden - The person or thing that they know they should stay far away from but their natural attraction and temptation towards what is bad for them overrules all logic and rationality. Nothing matters but the thrill of that moment!

BUT! The women who intrigue me the most are the women that see 'Bad Boys' as a sport - To joy of capturing the man that seems extremely hard to settle down in a committed relationship. When this woman finally gets this 'bad boy' she feels accomplished, she prides herself thinking that there must be something special about her for her to be chosen out of all the women he could have had! She automatically feels a sense of validation and ego boost. But what is even more entertaining is when she convinces herself that she can CHANGE him! These situations leave many women heartbroken because they've invested time and energy into trying to change a man whose tendencies they were fully aware of from the first day they met!

Ladies, mek mi tell yu dis! Hear mi very very clear! The only time a man changes is if he WANTS to!

Don't for any minute think that a particular sexual position, three course stew peas dinner, the fact that you can knot a cherry stem with your tongue or touch yuh eyebrow wid yuh tongue automatically turns a 'Bad Boy' into your boyfriend or husband.

A man has to truly want to commit ... to commit! Instead of trying to conquer the 'Bad Boy' why don't you be a 'good girl' and spend your time on someone who's interested in being committed to you!

'Bad Boys' to me are like amusement parks, once I've been on the roller-coaster I eventually get bored because it ends up nowhere!

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