Dear Pastor,

Greetings to you and your entire staff. I am a 32-year-old boy in a big man's body. I am a Christian for 15 years. I live in the storeroom of my church for over four years. From a child I did not know my father or any relatives. I grew up from a child without any family member to guide me on how to really be a man, although I am now old enough to have my own family.

I don't have the confidence to approach a female because I don't live anywhere. Finding a job is my bigger problem, and I have been severely depressed at times. I need your kind assistance in finding a job in order to rent a place and to boost my self-confidence and esteem.

I am lonely and can't find good company without improving my life. I need the boy to come out of me and leave only me the man. I need help. I am a driver with a 3000 kg licence. I am also a musician - on keyboard and drums. I am a motivator of positive character. I am hard working and responsible. I am computer literate. I know the basics in Spanish and I am willing to do whatever job I can get in order to upgrade my life.

Pastor, I would appreciate anything that you can do to help me get up from my stagnation.

N.R.

Dear N.R.,

I understand your problem and I am glad that at least you have a place to live. If you are living at the church, I believe that the best person to talk to is the minister of that church because he knows you, and he should be a good judge of your character. Therefore, I suggest that you talk to him. Don't be afraid to explain everything to him. If he is not available, speak to a senior deacon. They should be willing to help you. If they ignore you, please get back to me.

Pastor