Dear Pastor,

I never knew the day would come when I would have to turn to you for help. I am married for 12 years now and I have three children for my husband. Since my husband came to live with me in the US, he constantly keeps in touch with his ex-girlfriend. She is always calling him and when he wants to talk, he sends her texts for her to call him. He is talking to her when I am not home or when he is at work.

Pastor, I talk in peace, I talk in wrath and I changed his number. I destroyed his phone. I have tried everything in my power for him to end the communication between him and his ex-girlfriend, but it is not working. It has reached the point now where I separated myself from him by staying in another room. I really want to keep my marriage. Please help me to handle this one. I am looking forward to your response. Thank you and have a blessed day.

N.H.

Dear N.H.,

You will not get this man to please you unless he wants to do so. Perhaps he continues to love the woman you describe as his ex, or they are just good friends who love to talk to each other. Sometimes intimate friends continue to be very close, but nothing is going on.

When he got married to you, you thought he would have given her up, but he has not, and he doesn't have any immediate plans to do so. If he wanted to stop talking to her, he would have told her so and he would not answer her calls, etc.

I think you are wasting your time arguing with this man. Continue to be a good wife and leave everything in God's hand.

Fussing, quarrelling, and carrying on won't change anything. You are in America and this girl is in Jamaica. See that he does not waste his money on this woman and that he takes care of the bills at home.

Pastor