Dear Pastor,

I am in love with a man who is 11 years my senior. I am in college and I am working part-time. This man has been very helpful to me. He has his woman and he has children, but he is not married. I do not know what to do because when I first met him, he did not tell me that he is living with a woman. And now that our relationship has become tight, I found out that he is very wild.

not moving out

I cannot call him anytime of the night because his phone is off. I never wanted to get involved with a man who has many children and is living with a woman. I am still with him because of financial reasons. He gives me whatever I need. The woman he is living with is not moving out, so I can't go to where he is living. I hope she will move out soon. If she doesn't, he is going to rent a place and put me.

I don't know how to trust him and I don't know if he is serious about me or if it is just for the sex why he is helping me.

College Student

Dear College Student,

This man has lied to you and he will not stop. And if you continue to be intimate with him, he may get you pregnant and you would become one of his babymothers. This is not a good relationship, so I cannot encourage you to continue.

Pastor