It's a new year and many persons like to start it by making resolutions. Unfortunately, most of these resolutions are about improving professional position, education level, health status and weight. What about your sex life? What kind of resolutions are you making to improve the quality of your sexy? If you have not already made any, here are some suggestions you can look at:

1. Increase the number of times you have an orgasm by one per week. This is easy and fun especially for the busy person. If you are not having an orgasm at all, now you can have at least one per week.

2. Have phone sex, Yes, I know this sounds old-fashioned in the face of all the modern technology, but phone sex is an excellent way of expressing your desires. Use this medium to learn what your partner wants and how you can please them. Plus it is a whole lot of fun!

3. Give yourself a sexy challenge at least once per month - It is very easy to get comfortable and locked into a routine, so make an effort to mix it up and challenge yourself. Example: Give your lover an orgasm without touching the genitals.

4. Upgrade your sexy gears - I'm sure you're wondering what I am referring to as sexy gears. It's simple, all the implements, tools and toys that can be used to make your sexy time more fun. For example: adult toys, lingerie, erotic books and DVDs, high-heel shoes, etc. Get your gears and get your sexy on!

5. Get moving, exercise. Exercise is a usual part of New Year's resolutions because of all the health benefits that can be had from it. Exercise is also an excellent boost to your sexy fun. It can boost your libido, release endorphins that make you feel good, reduces erectile dysfunction and helps with sexual ageing, among other benefits.

6. Try something you consider taboo. There are many things in sexuality that persons consider taboo: oral sex, bondage, exhibitionism, threesomes, and orgies, among others. Some of these activities can actually be very enjoyable and can serve to bring you and your partner closer. Ensure you communicate with your partner and be open to listen to their feelings, even if you disagree.

7. Kiss in public (engage in more PDA): As Jamaicans, we are not shy about expressing ourselves when someone offends us. However, when it comes to being affectionate with each other, especially in public, it is a very different story. Grab your partner and kiss him/her just because you can. The more affectionate you are with each other, the stronger your bond will be.

8. Take the sexy outside the bedroom. We are cultured to keep sex in the bedroom - change this. Take the sexy fun into all the other rooms in the house, even outside. This is fun and adventurous, on top of the washing machine is a great place to start, enjoy!

9. Take a sexy class together: yoga, massage, Latin dance. This is a great way to spend time with you and your partner. Another plus is that you will be able to use this new skill to please each other.

10. Read an erotic novel together - foreplay does not only start after you have touched your partner. It starts before that. Reading an erotic novel together can be an excellent form of foreplay. To make it even more fun, re-enact a scene from the book.

As you set your sexy resolution, remember that the whole purpose is to have fun with each other and increase the level of intimacy you share. Ensure whatever you choose to do, it's done with your personal safety in mind. So go, get your freak on and have a SEXY 2013!

QUESTION

Dear Shelly,

I am a single woman and it seems that I cannot find Mr Right. I am tired of being alone and all my friends are becoming couples. Please help me. How can I find the man of my dreams? I don't like going out and stuff like that, but I need to meet someone to be with for the new year.

Simone, Discovery Bay

Dear Simone,

I hate to burst your bubble, but I would not be so focused on trying to finding Mr Right. There is still a debate going on about his existence. I will, however, advise to go out and meet some new people. One suggestion is to start a new hobby such as playing tennis or joining a gym. It is important for you to allow yourself to be around different people as this will increase your chances of meeting someone you like. More importantly, have some fun; the relationship part will come eventually. Stay sexy!

Shelly

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