Dear Pastor,

There is a serious problem in my relationship and I need your input and advice. I have a male friend who has been on and off with me for the last eight years.

He bought me a ring, asked me to marry him and assured me that he was working on his divorce from his ex-wife. Every time I tried to break off the relationship, he found a way to smooth talk himself back into my life, and I allowed him.

I am now fed up and the only way to get him out of my life is to leave the state I am living in, because he does not want to part with me. In the meantime, he wants to fool around with other women.

I will be watching out for your advice.

May God Bless you.

G.S., U.S.A.

Dear G.S.,

The truth is you do not want to leave this man. If you truly wanted to put an end to this relationship, you do not have to leave the street or the area in which you live. You have to tell him it is over and mean it. If he insists he has to visit you, you should see a lawyer and take out a restraining order against him.

From the tone of your letter, you love this man and hate to know that he is making a fool of you, but you have not truly made up your mind that the relationship should end. It hurts because he has other women and is behaving as a playboy.

This man knows he can tell you any foolishness and you believe, so he continues to make a fool of you. Wake up, woman. End the relationship with this man. Don't go out with him anymore, don't answer his telephone calls. If he tries to push himself on you, go see a lawyer.

Pastor