Dear Pastor,

I listen your talk show at nights and read your column whenever I can. I have a problem with my husband. I don't know what to do. He says he is working hard so that when we both reach the age of 55, we wouldn't have anything to worry about. He has a business that he is not telling me about.

When the business was just opening he had a little function and all our friends thought I would be the head cook and bottle washer in it. When I told them I did not know anything about it, they were surprised. They were even saying that it must be a woman who is in the business with him why he doesn't want me to know anything about it.

Every weekend he is gone to the business place and does not come home until Sunday night. And whenever I ask him where he slept, he said on his friend's couch. Whenever he says he is at the business place and I try calling him, he says his phone was on silent.

When he comes home and wants to have sex with me, I become very angry and I don't know why I feel so angry. I don't know if I am exaggerating but I crave your fatherly advice.

Confused

Dear Confused,

Your friends are going to help to destroy your marriage. Your husband has not made you a partner in his business. He has his reasons for not doing so. Some men work very well in business with their wives, others do not. Some wives are too jealous and often accuse their husbands of having affairs with clients. They find it difficult to separate their love life and the company business.

On the other hand, there are some wives who make excellent business partners with their husbands. Such businesses flourish and unless one is familiar with the couple, he/she would never know that they are related by marriage.

Some women chat just too much and they want to know everything. And it is not always wise for a man to say everything that is happening in his business, whether good or bad.

And, please learn that even if your husband is in business with a woman, it does not necessarily mean that they are having a sexual relationship. So your girlfriends who are putting dirty thoughts in your mind should learn to shut up and mind their own business.

Pastor