Dear Pastor,

I am a Christian and my husband is also a Christian. At present, I am pregnant. I grew up in a Christian home, but I married a man from a different faith. My husband does not have a steady job. He doesn't believe in working for anybody. He is doing his own business, but we do not have any savings.

I am not working and I am still getting help from my parents. I am 23 and my husband is 24. I told my husband that he should give up the business that he is doing and get a job, but he says his business needs more time to grow.

mother gives money

We are living at my parents' home and we are not paying rent. But I want us to rent a place for ourselves. Even the car we are using belongs to my mother. At times, my mother gives me money and I give it to my husband to put gas in the car.

My father does not ask any questions. He likes my husband. My father is also a businessman and a hard worker. When we got married, my husband told my parents that we would live at the house for six months. It is one year now, and we have no money. What can we do?

B.G.

Dear B.G.,

I suggest that you and your husband have a family conference with your parents. Tell them what is happening financially. Your mother already knows that you are not doing well financially. If you were, you wouldn't have been looking to her for money to put gas in the car.

Your husband should not feel embarrassed to ask your dad for suggestions. Perhaps, he should even consider asking him for a job.

In the meantime, give your husband moral support and thank your parents for allowing your husband and yourself to live in their home.

Pastor