Dear Pastor,

I am 21 and living with a man who is twice my age. This man used to go around and drink out his money. He also had many women. They used to take his money and then disappear.

When I met him he told me that he loved me from the first time he saw me. He kept asking me for sex, so I "backed it up" on him one night because I felt sorry for him and my conscience was bothering me because he was giving me money every week. Now, we are living together. And can you believe that not even a television or a radio is in the man's room.

The man is a cruff and I beat him every night so that he would get sensible. Right now things are so bad with him so not even a panty I can get money from him to buy. I can't even do my hair, but I am still trying with him.

The point is that all the other women used him and took his things and he didn't get any sex from them. He didn't use his head and save for the rainy day or for when he gets a good woman.

No-nonsense Woman

Dear No-nonsense Woman,

I don't know you personally, neither do I know your man. But I want to beg you to go easy on this man. Please don't beat him. He has wasted his money on women. And when he met you, he expressed his love for you and finally you believed and went to live with him. Now he has fallen on hard times. Help to build him up. Don't abuse him. You said you are trying with him, but if you beat him you will discourage him.

Both of you should try and seek employment and work together and build a solid future.

Pastor