Dear Pastor,

I am a 19-year-old young woman and I would like to share something with you. I have two brothers and two sisters. One of my sisters and myself are sexually active. We started to have sex when we were very young. Our brothers didn't live with us and our mother used to go to the market from Thursday and sometimes on Friday, and didn't come home until late Saturday night. We were left alone.

My sister who wasn't having sex is a Christian. She used to tell my mother that we didn't want to go to church with her and my mother said that nobody should force another to go to church. I could remember one night my sister and I took turns in having sex with one man. He brought gifts for us, pretty panties. And then he told us that we should model in them for him. So we did that and then he started to play with both of us. Nobody was at home but my sister and myself. We agreed to have sex with him so we can keep the panties. While my sister was having sex with him, I was watching to see if my sister or anybody was coming. And she did the same thing while I was having sex with him.

We did not know what we were doing. As we grew older, we talked about it. But the man told somebody that we had sex with him long after. And the person told my sister and my sister told my mother. My sister and I denied it. All of us did well in school. We are not bad girls.

Pastor, parents should not leave their girl children alone at home. This man didn't rape us but we could have got pregnant for him.

F.J.

Dear F.J.,

Your sister and yourself were young and naïve. Your mother was trying her very best to support you. This man took advantage of you. He is a bad man.

I hope that you will continue to do well and that you will make your mother proud. I thank you for sharing and for your word of caution to parents.

Pastor