I think I am paranoid. I had sex with a guy I only met a day before, but I was half-drunk. We used a condom, but I was so lost that I didn't check to see if all was well. He said that the condom was okay when I asked him (when we were finished), but I feel stupid for not checking to see if all was indeed well.

Now I am worried that I may have been infected with an STD/HIV from him. He hasn't spoken to me from that night as it was just a stupid one-night stand that I regret.

R.A.

Dear R.A.,

I suggest that you go to see a doctor as soon as possible and tell him/her exactly what has happened and how you are feeling. And, please, remember that you should not consume alcoholic beverage in excess. When a girl has too much to drink, she makes herself vulnerable and a man may take advantage of her. Alcoholic beverage may cause a woman to do things that she would not do when she is sober.

Pastor