Dear Pastor,

I read your column every day and I enjoy it and like how you try to help people. I don't know what is happening in my life, but it is surely messed up. I am married to a woman for nine years now. I travel and give her everything to comfort her. I am not abusive. I am just a loving person and also a good provider, but she got pregnant for another man.

Two years later, I took another woman and I treated her just the way I treated my wife and she put me in a $170,000-debt. Two years later, I took another woman and I gave her my heart, but her problem was that she wasn't straight. She doesn't keep her promises.

I am tired of the abuse and being rejected by women. Right now, I want a woman who deserves a good man because I know I am. I am hardworking and ambitious.

Pastor, please help me.

Unlucky Man

Dear Unlucky Man,

Before you start looking for another woman, try and find out what is wrong with you. Make an appointment with a psychologist and be prepared to do sessions with him/her to ascertain what your shortcomings are and why women are abusing you and getting involved with other men.

I believe that you are indeed worried, but I repeat, seek the help of a psychologist before you move another muscle in seeking another woman.

Pastor