Dear Pastor,

I am 19 years old and I am having a problem. Last year, I was talking to a guy who was 21 years old. I didn't see what I was looking for in a man in him, so I broke up with him.

I am talking to two other guys now. One of the guys is 42 years old. He says he wants to marry me and to start a family with me but he has a daughter. His daughter and I are the same age. He is a businessman.

The other guy is 30 years old and he owns a car. He has his woman, but I like him more. He works with a well-known company. I am not sexually active, but all my friends are and I think I am ready to have sex. My problem is that I don't know which of the guys I should have sex with.

I am so confused. Please tell me what to do.

S.L.

Dear S.L.,

My suggestion to you is that you keep your legs shut. These two guys are just going to use you. The one who is 42 years old who told you that he wants to marry you and settle down with you is only telling you so to get an opportunity to get under your skirt. He is likely to use you and drop you. He knows that you are young, inexperienced, and naïve.

The 30-year-old man is a no-no. He has his girlfriend, and you are only going to get yourself in trouble by becoming one of his girlfriends. And his other girlfriend and you might even have verbal and physical fights. Keep away from trouble.

Although you feel that you are ready for sex, don't bother with that. You won't die if you don't have sex. And if you are determined to have sex, none of these guys should have that opportunity. And always remember that it is unwise to have more than one man in your life at a time.

Pastor