I am writing you because I am in terror and I need your help. I am 18 years old and I have two guys in my life. I like one of the guys and I love the other. I don't know if the one I love loves me. I love him so much that I would do anything for him. The guy who I like is nice but he is a sex-addict and I don't know if I should have sex with him.

The guy I love has a friend and he is my best friend and he tells me everything. I lost my virginity with him recently. Now, I don't know what to do. My best friend has feelings for me but he likes other girls and it hurts me too.

I need your advice.

L.H.

Dear L.H.,

You have to learn that you should only have one man at a time in your life. What you are doing now is playing around and you are going to develop a very bad reputation. The things you do might haunt you in later years. If you are not careful, every young man is going to come around and try to get a piece of you, so to speak, and they are going to talk about it and say that you are easy to get.

Which of these guys did you have sexual intercourse with? Was it the guy you love or your best friend? Your best friend is showing sexual interest in you. But at the same time, he is a friend of the man you claim to love. He is surely not a good man. He knows that he does not have good intentions towards you, so I hope that you will exercise common sense and end the relationship with him.

Pastor