Dear Pastor,

I am 26, newly wed and my husband is a foreigner. We are a happy couple but I don't know what to do to get my husband to keep quiet whenever we are having sex.

After we got married, we spent our honeymoon at a hotel. During that time, we did all types of sex, even weird sex. I loved the time we spent together. When he came to stay at my house, before he left to go back to America, and we were making love, he makes a lot of noise and neighbours could hear us.

My husband likes us to exercise in the bedroom and in the living room in the nude. When he is turned on, he makes noise while having sex with me.

He believes his penis needs to be exercised, so he told me what to do with his penis. He also taught me that I should do exercises to strengthen my vaginal muscles.

We are both christians and I was naïve to these things. I miss my husband so much, Pastor. He got me to love sex. I can't wait to see him again. I am feeling sad because he will not be back before August, but I do have a vibrator.

F.L.

Dear F.L.,

You don't have a problem. You are happily married and enjoying new things. It is true that there are exercises a man can do to strengthen the penis and exercises a woman can do to strengthen her vaginal muscles. Your husband has made you aware of these things.

Now that you are aware of these things, I hope he will not stay away for a long period.

Pastor