Dear Pastor,

I enjoy reading your column and I think you are doing a good job, even though sometimes the things people come up with are hard to figure out.

I am 20 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 18. My problem is that I didn't bleed, neither the first or second time. I only felt the pain. Growing up I cannot recall having any injury to my vagina, so I don't know what went wrong. My boyfriend is very understanding and he believes that he is the only person who has ever touched me, but I still want to know what happened.

Pastor, I used to have sex using condoms but now my boyfriend says that he wants to feel my body and not a condom. I know that it is wrong to allow him to ejaculate in me, but I still allow him to do so. He wants a baby, but I am not quite ready as yet. My period comes every 25-27 days. Five days after my period is finished, I allow him to ejaculate in me. He asked me if I am on birth control and I told him no. He didn't say why he asked, but I believe he is wondering why I have not gotten pregnant by this.

My question to you is: is something wrong with me or my boyfriend? Or am I having sex when there is no egg to fertilise? Thank you and I am looking forward to your respond.

Miss Curiosity

Dear Miss Curiosity,

The only thing that your boyfriend is interested in doing with you is to impregnate you. He wants a child. You claim that you are not ready. But at the same time, both of you are having unprotected sex. You are only 20 years old and you don't have any education, but you are eager to become a mother. You are not behaving wisely. You are making this man control your life and your future.

Not all women bleed during their first sexual encounter. You have many questions, so I suggest that you make an appointment to see a gynaecologist.

Pastor