Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you about my boyfriend. Before I met him, I didn't believe in love. I always wanted to meet someone who is faithful, honest, trustworthy and everything a woman could possibly want from a man. Last year, I met that someone and we hung out a lot. He would call me often, even when he is busy, and would set up dates so he could see me regularly. I knew something was going to happen between us, but I decided not to say anything to him.

This year, everything fell apart. We broke up for a week. On my birthday, we made up. A couple of weeks passed, he called and told me he had sex with someone and she was pregnant for him. I was so shocked and totally disappointed in him. We had made promises to each other. He had broken all his promises and I had only broken one.

I don't know what to do. We are always having arguments. He decided to keep the child. He was planning to let the girl abort the child and I told him no. We still talk, but not as frequently. I don't know what to do. I still love him. He is the first man I have ever really had a serious relationship with. I cannot trust him anymore. He said he is trying to save the relationship but, honestly, I don't see where he is trying.

What am I supposed to do? I am committed to him. I really love him and don't want to lose him, but somehow it just feels different between us. Can you help me? I really need your advice.

M.B., Clarendon

Dear M.B.,

Have you considered that this young man might be telling the young woman who is now pregnant for him the same things he is telling you? I am sure he is telling her that he loves her and has made similar promises to her.

Always remember he will always be in touch with her, because they are having a child together. He may come around you and lie but the reality is he is not going to walk away from his babymother without a cause. If you are prepared to share him with this woman, you may want to hang around, but that would not be wise. It would be better for you to end the relationship and consider it a big mistake.

Pastor