Fed up with his nastiness

Dear Pastor,

How are you doing? I am a middle-aged married woman living with my husband, but we do not sleep on the same bed because he is very nasty. No matter how I talk to him about his personal hygiene, it doesn't matter, so I stopped talking and cheated on him. I wouldn't tell him what I did, neither would I ask him if he has cheated on me. I don't care to know.

S.C., St Catherine

Dear S.C.,

This relationship is not healthy. Your husband should practise proper hygiene. Why can't he have a shower before going to bed? Why should he expect his wife to respond to him and he stinks? He should know no wife would be happy to endure bad odour from a dirty man.

Cheating

It is unfortunate you felt you had to cheat. I am not condemning you, but I wish you had not done so. It is not wise for you to be having an intimate relationship with another man while you are with your husband. Try to get him to go with you to see a counsellor. At least you would not be speaking to him alone. You would have a professional counselling both of you.

I do not wish to have your husband verbally abuse you, but perhaps when your husband comes home in the evening you can offer to give him a bath. If he agrees, for the first evening, you would have to use a hose and a mighty big rag to scrub him down. Serious now, offer to give him a bath. He can either say yes or no.

Pastor