Dear Pastor,

This is my first time writing to you. I am a 20-year-old male who is madly in love with an 18-year-old college girl.

The problem I am having is that her mother doesn't like me because her daughter is in love with me. Her mother recently met a guy from England who shows interest in her daughter. However, she is not interested in him, but her mother is making it very hard on her because she wants her to be with this guy because the guy sends money to her.

I have been thinking of confronting the mother and telling her how I feel about her daughter, but because I have yet to own a home for myself, I don't want to do so.

I would really value your advice on what to do.

S.B., St. Elizabeth

Dear S.B.,

You are blaming this girl's mother for discouraging her from having a relationship with you. If this man is sending money, to whom does the money go? Is it to her mother or to the young lady?

I think you are fighting a losing battle. Nevertheless, ask the young lady whether she would like you to talk to her mother. You seem to feel it might be a waste of time, I feel that way also. What are you going to tell the mother of this young woman? You are 20 years old and you have nothing. Evidently, the man abroad is quite capable of providing for the young lady and he has the edge over you.

Having said the above, I suggest that that you don't give up. If this young lady loves you and you love her, both of you can keep the love in your heart. You can never tell what will happen as both of you grow old. Money cannot buy love but true love never dies.

Pastor