Dear Pastor,

Greetings in the name of Jesus Christ, our soon-coming king. I see where you have helped many people and hope you can help me. I am a hard-working young man. I have been living with my babymother for two years. I took her with two children. We have one child together. This girl is never satisfied with what I give her.

The two children's father does not give her anything for them. I told her not to ask him for anything for them, I will take care of them. Pastor, when I am gone to work, men go to my house and have sex with her. One of the men talked about it on the road. Even my father told me I should ask her to leave because he heard she has more than one man coming to my house when I am gone to work.

My father doesn't get involved in my business, but he said it hurt him when he heard the man talking about it in the bar. I did everything to make her feel comfortable but she always want more money. I went home one day and saw a man in my yard, I don't know if she had sex with him. He drove a white car and I took the number down, but I did not see him in the house. He said he brought a message to her from her sister.

Pastor, I don't trust her anymore. My son is three years old. If I ask her to leave, I don't want her to take my son, but I know she is going to hold on to him. Whenever I am walking on the street, I just feel people laughing at me. People respect me. She is fat and nice looking and I love her, but I don't trust her anymore.

R. B.

Dear R.B.,

I suggest you bring this relationship to an end. This woman is immoral and you will never be happy with her. Your father and others have been encouraging you to terminate the intimate relationship. Your father is concerned about you and doesn't like hearing this woman is living a loose life in your house and you consider her to be your woman. Let her take the children, including your son. If she has a comfortable place to live, you would be responsible for supporting him.

Don't fight to keep your son. If after she leaves, you are not satisfied the child is under good parental control, you may take her to court and seek custody. Perhaps your mother would be quite willing to take the child whenever she is ready to give him up. However, we are jumping the gun here, so to speak. She has to move out first. If she does not want to leave, you may have to settle the matter in court.

Pastor