Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I am living alone. My husband died three years ago, and my two children are studying in the USA. My deceased husband left us debt free and I am comfortable. At times I feel lonely.

I met a man who said that he loves me. He is 55 and I am 54. We have gone out many times. Before my husband died he told me I should get married again if I find someone I love, but he should not live at the house because the house is for our children.

This man is divorced. He does not have children. I told my children about him, but they have not met him. My son told me that I shouldn't go out with any man who is divorced because there must be a reason why his wife divorced him.

I spoke to his ex-wife and she told me he is mean and always wanted her to pay half of every bill. He believes that if a woman is working she should pay half of every thing.

One day he came to my house and I caught him smelling my soiled underwear I had put in the dirty clothes basket. I thought he was sitting on the verandah, I didn't know he had gone into the bathroom. I was speechless. From that time, my mind has changed from him.

Since that time, I haven't gone anywhere with him, but I haven't told him why. Why do you think he was smelling my panties?

G.E.

Dear G.E.,

You are very fortunate to have had a husband who evidently understood money management and invested wisely, so you could be free of debt. Not many women are so fortunate.

Concerning this man who is interested in you, he probably has a fetish for soiled panties. On the other hand, he probably was trying to find out whether you are suffering from any infection. I can't be sure.

What I do know is you shouldn't continue to go out on dates with him. You don't need that type of man in your life. Say no to this man. Don't even invite him back to your house.

Pastor