Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you with tears in my eyes. I can't take my boyfriend anymore. He has so many girls and when he wants to have sex with me, he refuses to use the condom. He never tells the truth. He says that he doesn't have sex with all of them, but I caught him having sex with a girl in my car. He took my car to get serviced and he picked up one of his girlfriends and had sex with her in my car. He couldn't deny that. Now he is saying that she is the only one he had sex with.

I am six months pregnant for this man and I am not keeping in good health. And he won't stay home with me. I love him very much because he takes good care of me. Both of us are working. Before I got pregnant, I was planning to leave him and then I changed my mind because he was my first boyfriend and he is not mean. He is tidy and if he is home and I am doing housework, he helps me, but he goes out too much. He is 27 years old and I am 25. When I got pregnant I told him that we should get married, but he said that he was not ready.

My uncle grew me and he is a pastor. He is disappointed that I got pregnant before I got married. I would like you to talk to my boyfriend and me. Please tell me if you are willing to meet with us. He is bad but good husband material.

S.J.

Dear S.J.,

I would be happy to meet with your boyfriend and you. I cannot accede to every request, but I would be prepared to meet with both of you considering your present condition and the conduct of your boyfriend. I am glad that you consider him a good man. He has his weaknesses. His number-one weakness, according to you, is women. When we meet - we will also talk about whether he would be prepared to marry you. He said he wasn't ready, but sometimes men say they are not because they feel that some women would change after they get married. It is a matter of fear. In the meantime, take care of yourself.

Pastor